Ill St Albans dad makes it to son’s wedding thanks to help from hospital staff

PUBLISHED: 16:58 16 November 2016 | UPDATED: 16:58 16 November 2016

Paul Cartwright, Sally Cartwright, Sam Cartwright, Juliet Cartwright and Juliet’s parents Fiona de Pencier and Theo de Pencier.

Paul Cartwright, Sally Cartwright, Sam Cartwright, Juliet Cartwright and Juliet’s parents Fiona de Pencier and Theo de Pencier.


Medics at a London hospital went well beyond the call of duty to make it possible for a seriously-ill St Albans patient to attend his son’s wedding.

Paul Cartwright, 57, was admitted to St Thomas’ Hospital in Central London in early October suffering from gastrointestinal bleeding due to the long-term effects of cancer treatment many years ago.

He was hoping to be discharged in time for his 30-year-old son Sam’s wedding on Saturday, October 29, but it became clear he would not be well enough to go home then.

Paul asked the team on the high dependency unit if there was a way he could be at the wedding - and the critical care team leapt into action.

They arranged for Dr Adrian Pakavakis, an intensive care consultant, and Linda Cooper, a senior nurse from the critical care response team, to take him to the ceremony at Hampstead Parish Church. They carried out a risk assessment and made plans to ensure that it was safe for Paul to leave the hospital.

Paul said: “At the time I was feeling very depressed because I was bleeding and there was no end in sight. All I could do was wait to see if it stopped. The weeks I’d been in the hospital were clocking up and I became fearful of what my life would like when I eventually went home.

“Things seemed very bleak when Sam’s wedding was approaching. A couple of days before the wedding, the critical care team told me I would be able to go which was a huge relief.

“It was lovely to see Sam marry his wife, Juliet. He was so happy that I was there and it was beneficial for my family, including my wife Sally and younger son Max, that I could be there as they would have felt very bad if I hadn’t.”

He went on: “Seeing me there was very comforting for them as it made me appear to be less ill. It also meant that Sam felt comfortable going on his honeymoon without worrying about me.

“Dr Pakavakis and Linda were discreetly by my side, which made me feel very secure. The day was a good distraction from what I was going through. I stayed for a couple of hours for the ceremony and photos before needing to go back to St Thomas.”

Paul said that witnessing his eldest son get married was a ‘major life event that I would have missed had it not been for the care provided by the team’

He added: “I’m so grateful for the team from St Thomas’ for making it happen.”

Paul’s bleeding stopped shortly after the wedding and he has since been able to go home.

Clare Meadows, matron for critical care, said: “As a critical care team we were absolutely delighted that we could support Paul to attend his son’s wedding.

“We pride ourselves on providing high quality care for patients but sometimes they need more than conventional treatments. It is wonderful to be able to go the extra mile to make a positive impact on a patient’s well-being and we hope to do similar things for other patients in future.”

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